68 - Why calm, healthy relationships feel so *damn* foreign after toxic ones ft. Louise Rumball

Stream the solo episode on Apple Podcasts here and Spotify here

In a new solo HOMETRUTH segment, Louise hops on a solo episode to ask 'why does no one talk about how hard a healthy relationship is after years of toxic ones? '

Louise talks about the truths you need to accept, why healthy relationships feel uncomfortable after toxic ones, what to do about it, and more, including:

• healthy love after toxic love 

• suspicion & being hyper vigilant to every future partner

• self sabotage & why you might just want to f**k it all up 

• why healthy sometimes feels boring or gives you the “ick”

• the nervous system activation of “butterflies” & attachment trauma 

• what we need to learn about baby butterflies; and

• why even the sex might feel different in a healthy relationship. 

Recommended listening on toxic relationships:

• Episode #16 - how to deal with out of bounds relationships / why we keep it quiet

• Episode #67 - ‘hard work partner or toxic abuse?’

• Episode #24 - how to leave a toxic relationship, safely

• Episode #64 - why are you attracted to people’s confusing behaviour?

• Episode #33 - why you’re attracted to inconsistent men / women (+ how to break it #44)

• Episode #13 -Louise's experiences in a toxic relationship

• Episode #12 - how codependency can also suggest toxic trauma bonds

• Episode #47 - d**khead or narcissist? The 101 guide to narcissism and