Episode 7 - The 10 therapist-backed things you need to hear to help you survive a broken heart
This week, I’m coming to you from my very own home-made recording studio with a solo episode about the really really sad break up that I have gone through over the last couple of months. When it happened, it hit me like a truck and I went into a total tailspin of panic, fear, distress and desperation. It was horrible.
Breakups are hard enough in normal, day to day life but there is something about going through any kind of break up during a global pandemic that seems to make the feelings it evokes even more intense - so, in today’s session, I’m going to share with you the top 10 things I have learnt in therapy that have helped me get through those awful first few weeks.
Whilst I’m certainly not out the other side of the break up yet, I have come a way in my healing and I want to share with others what I have learnt in case it helps them too.
This is the episode that I wish someone had given me on that horrible, horrible day that the break up started.
In it, I discuss:
how understanding the biology and psychology behind the initial stages of your break up can help you to understand that you aren’t going crazy;
that your body is actually reacting to rejection, and it’s wired from your caveman days;
the neural affirmations can help to calm your nervous system and re-wire your brain;
how you are actually going through something not dissimilar to an intense drug withdrawal, and how
that understanding the addiction cycle will help you to break out of it and move forward;
the psychology of out of sight and out of mind, and what to do with your memories together;
how to stop romanticising and objectively understand the why;
understanding yours - and their - personality style and attachment style will help you to understand why you both might be reacting differently; and
what closure really means (and it’s not what you think!).
Amongst many other things.
You can listen to this podcast episode on Spotify here and Apple Podcasts here.
If you yourself are struggling, or you know someone that is, please do seek professional help, if possible, to work through what you are going through. If that’s not possible, then I really hope that you can take what I have learnt in therapy, digest this episode and perhaps apply some of it to your own situation.
Whatever you are going through My heart goes out to you - I would not wish heartbreak on anyone.
With love,
Louise
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